Moving forward

Your relationship ends (either you the one who decide to call it off or vice versa). You were: Miserable. Sad. Angry or mix of these or any other negative feelings.

You decided to:
1. Stay in your bed for months!
2. Not to eat or drink anything.
3. Quit your job.
4. Quit doing anything you enjoyed.
5. Hurting yourself.

In other words: "you are torturing yourself".

Why? What for? 

Let's say,

A, just ended her 8 years relationship and say: "My life is over. No one would want me."

A decide to stay in bed for months!

While B, who just ended her 10 years relationship and say: "My life just started! It's a great opportunity for me to meet new people. Make friends & who knows i would get the chance to be with someone who deserves me!". B focus on improving herself.

Guess who would be happier?

What should you realize is: LIFE GOES ON. 

Even if you decided not to do anything. The clock is ticking out of time. By doing nothing, it means you change nothing. 

You should be moving forward. 

In order to move forward, you would have to:

1. Accept where you are. Presently. Accept what had happened (you broke up). Instead of asking "why does it happen to me?", why not ask: "What should i do about it?". Whether you realize or not, you still breathing. You have enough food to eat. Enough drink. You have what you need is it?

So, get your head straight & focus on your life.

2. Surround yourself with positive people. Could be your good friend or family. Talk to them. Don't just talk about the break up. There are plenty things to be talk about. Divert your thoughts.  Or you could get yourself a piece of paper & write down what you feel like writing. Once you done, throw it away. 

3. Motivate yourself by view what had happened from a different perspective. Convert all the negative thoughts into a positive one. Things happens for a reason. It's how you view it would determine what is the reason.

4. Focus back to your life. Focus on what you should do with your life. Still, the choices is yours either to be miserable or be happy. You cannot change what happened. You cannot change other people. You cannot change the world. But what you can is to change yourself to be a better person.

You attract what you are. Either positive or negative.