Am I the right one?

"How do I know if I am the right one?"

"Am I the right one for you?"

"How do I know if I'm with the right person?"

Sometimes in relationship, there's a moment when we asked either ourself or our partner these questions. 

In relationship, it's start with FALLING IN LOVE where we tend have these "love butterflies" in our stomach, our heart beats faster, our alertness towards our phones increase tremendously, smiles on our face all day long by just thinking about "that special person", and so on. Well, it wasn't hard to fall in love.  It is a natural & spontaneous experience. We were practically doing nothing and it happens. Magically, everything in life seems wonderful & pleasant.

"Feels like i'm flying"

"My heart skipped a beat"

"He/She took my breath away"

Familiar is it?

However, after a few months together or years of being together, all of these amazing feelings starts to fade away. Little by little. Bit by bit. We start to get annoyed by each day. Fells uncomfortable to sit on the same couch which once used to be "OUR favorite couch". We tend to get angry by simple mistake our partner did. Everything seems dull. And here's the point where we start to ask "Am I the right one?" which means that our relationship starts to breakdown. We tend to blame our partners for what happen, some would look outside for fulfillment, having affairs, turn to spend our time on work, hobby, or some would develop an abusive and aggressive behavior towards their partners. 

Some decide to be apart. While, some would try to hold on.

Yet, we still have both our heads in the cloud. Wondering what could possibly gone wrong without trying to figure out what is the actual problem is & not trying to fix it. What we should do is, STOP. Stop for a while. Take a deep breath. 

In relationship, to make it success, we must put our energy, time, effort & most important is to learn to accept & love our special ones. 

To make it lasts, let's practice:

*Let go of the past*

*Learn to accept our partner's uniqueness*

*Appreciate one another*

*Respect each other*

*Learn to tolerate*

*Ready to compromise in almost anything*

*Be open to our partner thoughts, comments & critics*

*Willing to improve ourself*

*Give our best*

*Expect nothing in return*